Today was not a good day for my daughter. It is the day that she found out (finally) that Santa isn't real. In addition, she put two and two together and determined for herself that the Tooth Fairy and Easter Bunny are out as well. It wasn't my intention to do this, but in some way, I am finally glad to have this all out in the open.
See, my daughter is 11 and will be entering 6th grade which is Middle School here. I knew she believed in Santa and just haven't had the heart to tell her. Why would you want to spoil something like that? But I have been conflicted because ALL of her friends know the truth but she still believed. I even heard her having a heated debate with a friend once over the validity of the tooth fairy.
To be honest, doing the Santa thing gets much harder when your kids are older. And don't even get me started on the tooth fairy. Since its summer, she stays up later than me and it is darn near impossible to get that money under the pillow without setting an alarm to get up at 4 in the morning. That just seems a bit absurd. However, I have been playing along very well all these years.
Today I picked her up from her grandfather's house and she had a bag with her name on it. My husband said, "Where did you get that cute bag?" and I immediately said "Oh, I ordered it from Pottery Barn Kids a few years ago." And then I saw her face...OH EM GEE!!! She looked deflated and I couldn't figure out why. It's just a bag, what's the big deal? Then she told me that it was given to her by Santa and I immediately remembered this to be true.
See, its hard to keep in your mind what YOU gave the kid and what Santa left over the years. I have been doing this perfectly for eleven full years. In my mind, I think I did a pretty good job making it this long. I know many parents that were "outed" years ago.
After about an hour of processing all of this and not speaking to me, she seemed to come to terms with it in her own way. We had a family discussion about the importance of giving and receiving. We also talked about how Christmas is more about family and love than it is about getting presents. It was a good conversation and one I am glad we were able to have together.
I'm not going to lie, I am kind of excited that I don't have to struggle with hiding presents and sorting out the night before. But at the same time, I am realizing every day how fast she is growing up. Before I know it, she will be off to college and I will look back on these times fondly.
So to make up for my huge "mess-up" today, I told her to call a friend for a sleepover at our house tonight. In only the way children can do, she was immediately jumping up and down and I can promise you, that Santa was no longer on her mind.
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